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May 28, 2026 · 4 min read · Event Planning Tips
Wedding favor etiquette is one of those areas where the rules have evolved significantly over the past decade. What was expected at a formal wedding twenty years ago may feel completely optional today — and that is actually liberating for couples who are planning their celebrations.
Here is everything you need to know about modern wedding favor etiquette, from whether you need them at all to exactly where they go and how to make sure guests actually take them home.
Technically, no. Wedding favors are not required by any etiquette standard. They are a gesture of gratitude — a small gift to thank guests for celebrating with you — not an obligation.
That said, they have become such a standard part of the wedding experience that their absence is often noticed. Many guests expect a favor, and a thoughtfully chosen one creates a beautiful moment at the reception and a lasting memory of your day.
If budget is a genuine concern, it is far better to skip favors entirely than to provide something cheap and impersonal that communicates the wrong message about your values. An empty place at the table is forgotten. A favor that felt like an afterthought is remembered.
The most common placement is at each individual place setting — either on the plate, to the left of the plate, or tucked into the folded napkin. This makes it clear that the favor is for the specific guest seated there and creates a beautiful first impression when guests arrive at the table.
An alternative is a favor display table near the exit — a styled vignette where guests pick up their favor as they leave. This works beautifully for favors that are too large or fragile for individual placement, and it encourages guests to take their favor home rather than leaving it on the table.
For both approaches, clear signage helps. A small sign that says "Please take a favor to remember this day" significantly increases how many guests actually take one home.
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Shop the CollectionEvery adult guest at your wedding receives a favor. Children may or may not receive one depending on the nature of the favor — a soy wax candle is not appropriate for a six-year-old, but a small chocolate is.
Your wedding party receives separate, more substantial gifts and does not need to be counted in the favor total, though many couples choose to include them for consistency.
Vendors and catering staff do not receive wedding favors. They are professionals at work, not guests at your celebration.
The single most effective strategy is to place favors at individual seats rather than on a communal table. When a favor is at someone s specific place setting, they feel a personal connection to it and are far more likely to take it home.
The second most effective strategy is to choose a favor guests actually want. A beautiful personalized candle that smells wonderful will be taken home at a far higher rate than a miniature picture frame. Think about what you would want to receive as a guest at someone else s wedding — and give that.
Finally, the signage mentioned above genuinely works. Many guests feel uncertain about whether they are supposed to take the favor. A small, elegantly worded sign removes that uncertainty and creates permission.
Not at all. Some guests simply forget. Some may be rushing to catch transportation. Some may prefer not to carry anything additional. None of this is rude or reflects poorly on your choice of favor.
This is another reason to order the 10 percent buffer — you will have extras regardless, and the leftover favors are yours to keep as memories of your wedding day.
For a formal wedding, the favor should be elegant, well-packaged, and feel genuinely luxurious. Think premium materials, refined presentation, and thoughtful personalization. A handmade custom candle in a matte sleeve with gold foil, a bespoke fragrance favor in luxury packaging, or a monogram chocolate in a satin box all communicate the right level of care for a formal celebration.
Avoid novelty items, anything plastic, or anything that feels mass-produced at a formal wedding. The favor should feel consistent with the overall experience you are curating for your guests.
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